No boys allowed

2009 May 18
by Kimberly

Recently, the first #halifaxchicks tweetup took place. A number of geek girls decided to give props to local tweeters one #followfriday and from that grew the discussion of having a girls’ night out.

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Now, male bonding seems to typically include bro codes and high impact sports. I’m not sure what would happen on a geekier level if a #halifaxdudes tweetup ever occurred but I’m pretty sure the sports activities would occur in the wii world. Conversely, female bonding is seen to include tickle and pillow fights. If you do not wish for this delusional bubble to be burst, please do not read on.

Upon arriving at Mosaic, there were at least two other tables filled with just women. In fact, the only men around were the bartender and manager. When I found the right table, I saw mostly strangers. Ordinarily, I’m not the kind of person who’s comfortable in these sorts of situations. I am, after all, a geek myself and therefore more in the zone when behind the safety of a computer monitor.

But you know what? It didn’t matter. We each made our introductions, sat down around the table, and talked. Non-stop. And it was great.

Having moved here from another city, it took me years to build up a network of close friends. People who have lived here all their lives have a built-in network from childhood. Often, there’s no room for the new kid. In my case, most of my close friends in this city are originally from elsewhere or moved away and came back to find that their friends of old had moved on without them. I’m not making a judgement here; I’m just saying that it’s tough making friends when you’re East Coast By Choice (not by birth).

Twitter has opened up a magic social door though through which one can step and make new and very real connections via tweetups. Speaking of which, don’t forget about Third Wednesday coming up this week. Register at the EventBrite site or join the Facebook group for updates.

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  1. 2009 May 18

    SEXIST!

    (I kid because I’m bitter.)

    • 2009 May 18

      Ben: We still have Third Wednesdays for the co-eds. However, I challenge you to organize a #halifaxdudes that is comparable to #halifaxchicks. :-P

  2. 2009 May 18

    I’d love to join you on your next get together:)

    • 2009 May 18

      Shelagh: That would be lovely. It was such a successful night that there are sure to be more and the invitation is open. We’ll Tweet the details of any upcoming event using the #halifaxchicks hashtag and I’ll post it on the Halifax Tweetup wiki, too.

  3. 2009 May 18

    I’m from here – but lived abroad and came back. Everything you say about making friendships here is true. I’ve been the outsider even though I’m an insider. Go figger!

    And you are right, Twitter has been like a magical door. I was so happy to meet you guys that night.

    I hope Shelagh comes to the next one.

    And we still love you Ben, even if we are sexist!

  4. 2009 May 18

    Yes it is difficult to make friends here, I think for me it’s partly due to the age I got here, ie mid-thirties, people are busier. I often wonder is it the same for people who move to my part of the world… I think probably it is :-(

    • 2009 May 18

      Gifted: I can’t imagine how frustrating it would be to come back “home” and not be able to fit in like you used to. I often wonder what it would be like to move back to Toronto but I think in a bigger city, particularly one with so much of an immigrant population, there are no insiders.

      Queenie: I was fortunate enough to go back to school in my thirties so I met a number of great friends through there or work terms. But, at the same time, Cokebaby has had difficulty making his own friends here. You should definitely come out to a #halifaxchicks event or even a Third Wednesday if you can. A very welcoming group indeed! I foresee a future filled with good conversation, yummy food, and ample beverages.

  5. 2009 May 18

    you girls had too much fun … i will definitely leave my hermit hat at home and make it to the next one!

    • 2009 May 18

      Michelle: I sure hope so lest your nickname Snuffleupagus stick..! Would be nice to put a live face to a Twitter name.

  6. 2009 May 19
    Bessy permalink

    hey girl
    as an ex-pat, back in the ‘fax – I too have found it hard to meet new people.. which is why the meet up was such a great idea! looking forward to the next one.. which hopefully will involve Mojitos and more great conversation :)

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